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Having best friend is the most amazing thing that could happen to human being. The need of friend is consider as norm of living in this created universe. But do we realize to describe a friend as a best friend is not easy as ABC. Most of human being can have thousand of friends but to have a best friend is hard. Why these phenomenons happen? Should human created to treat people equally or vice versa? This question should be answer by us, the created creature. Human need human, animal need animal and plant need plant, this is why the needs of friend is emphasize in life. But why need best friend despites of having friends and it is already enough to just have friend if we just emphasize ‘human need human’. The cruelty of world creates the so-called bias of having best friend. Personally I consider best friend as alternative family members, someone who we can share our thoughts, personals, anger, happiness, sorrow and etc.

Consider this story, Russell is a normal married guy who lives a decent life in the suburban, having good job and lots of friends and luckily he has one best friend name James. They both take care of each other so much (as a friend) and there is nothing that can keep them apart. Being a best friend since primary school has tightened their relationship until now. Besides having their own family to take care of, their relationship still at their own best. Lots of thoughts have been exchanged, lots of anger has been expressed, lots of sorrow has been shared and lots of tear has been shed off. Together they stand still in the name of best friend. The moment that we cherish could never last longer, there is no such thing as eternity in this world. James, a healthy loving husband has kept the secret of having chronic disease. James needs a donor for his dysfunctional heart. Russell’s ignorant of the matter has put him in the critical situation when James suddenly fainted in front of him. Fortunately he managed to send him to hospital and he was in critical situation. The truth has been revealed that has been kept for such a long time away from his concern. He then decided to donate half of his heart to him. Their blood matched and the operation happened smoothly. The grateful face of James towards Russell expressed when their operation was successful.  Unfortunately, the event doesn’t last longer when suddenly James got complication upon accepting new heart. The rejection of the heart has torn the life friendship between James and Russell. James died the day later.

This story might sound cliché but what I want to convey here are the feeling of true best friend and the co-feeling towards it. Their livelihood friendship has created the sense of belonging to each other. When the same gender be best friend, the sense of belonging would be greater (my opinion), the sense of love would never arouse and that is the most important in relationship. Nevertheless, what are the most important moral values are the sense of sincerity and scarification towards each other. Last message that this story portray is the sense of eternity. Whatever relationship in this world won’t last eternity, but it stays in their heart forever.  

If I were to choose, having both gender as best friend is the best because man and women are created differently and compliment to each other. But sometimes, having women as a best friend could mislead the intention of having best friend. Without our concern, the feeling of caring as friend could change to feel caring as a lover. This type of relationship has bumped out of the boundary of best friend. In any relationship, sincerity is the most important thing that should be embraced constantly. Having such a feeling of love sometimes can be accepted if that person has already married or ‘unavailable’. In my opinion, having a friend as a best friend just for the feeling of love is unacceptably but deniable. Furthermore, taking best friend (different gender) who has similar status would be the best. Yet, having such feeling of love is not totally wrong and the history has proved best friend can be lover, later married. What has been discussed before, having different gender as best friend could create such feeling of love, I think that could be disadvantage for those whom are already ‘unavailable’. Again, my opinion the most important thing to avoid when having different gender as best friend are the feeling of ‘overcare’ because it could lead to other feeling and one more, we must cater to what has syariah prescribed in the relationship. Even though the term of best friend, many always misinterpreted and going overboard.

In conclusion, it is the best to have one each from different gender as best friend but the feeling of independent and the sincerity towards the friendship are crucial to cater. Different gender best friend can create more diversity in relationship. The sense of compliment act as the best accessory in any relationship. But again if the feeling of sincerity and independent (no feeling of love) fail to cater, having same gender is the best.

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