Viaje De Mi Vida

All the things in this world experience changes throughout their life. Some accept changes with open heart and some resist to change. Accepting or resisting is depend whether the change is on the positive or negative side. Peolple change,from negative to positive or from positive to negative. How people reflect to the changes depends on the degree of their analysis on that particular change. As in my view, i once experiencing the changes of something from positive to negative. Hard to accept especially in the relationship. How can someone accept something from good to bad? Nobody does! This is something that people should resist to change but we cannot accept the reality that this situation does happen.

Let put this in story,

Once, Anna was so great in handling and mingling with people,talking nicely,sweet smile,caring and attentive to others. Any changes in the environment trigger Anna to put herself in the position of understanding. You see the sick of yourselves comfort by Anna, asking so much why and how and don’t. The promises that Anna put has changed someone who don’t believe in her  to trust her so much. Falling down the edge of loneliness to the sweet hiking through the deep forest, Bianca has fallen on her trustworthiness. Having to trust people back,Bianca hope this could change her life to be someone better in relationship and not being backstab once again. Trust increasing day by day as Anna so positive in their relationship. Engrossed so much in this relationship,Bianca hasn’t notice what has been planned by Anna for her. Once again Bianca been backstab by her own trusted friend. For this while Bianca has been exploited by her best friend without her awareness. Anna has CHANGED. Anna is no longer the person Bianca use to know before, she misses the Yesterday, where nothing is name obstacle could come closer. But again no turning back for her. She wishes that this friendship never happened in the first place. She Frustrated with Anna,but having no such intention of terminating their relationship, she succumb to the feeling of unhappiness. Bianca’s ignorant of the situation has taught her to move on and be optimis and positive all the time. But the journey to accept the feeling of ever trusting people bother her so much. Getting up from bed never be the same again, going to bed early just not to think too much of it, eating has been the routine,going to work just to let go the problem, mingling with friend just to make herself happy again. “Time to move on Bianca”!!that the phrase that she put in her head ever since but couldn’t execute it because of her kindness and loyalty. Again, life need to be fill with something. Till then, she kept for herself for her life untill time heal herself,that what she believe. To revenge someone, be nice to that person, Bianca hold that….. “ you’re nobody in others life but you’re always somebody in your life”

From the story, it so obvious people change just to please other people,being so nice once then being their original state once again. Why should friendship been treated like that?It is so unfair when only one side feel hurt and vulnerable.  So unfair!!!!. For Bianca, she always want Yesterday, the sweet day being as a friend and herself. She always keep hoping and praying that Anna will change someday to her original when they first met despites feeling hurt and slash by Anna. Just believe….

Having best friend is the most amazing thing that could happen to human being. The need of friend is consider as norm of living in this created universe. But do we realize to describe a friend as a best friend is not easy as ABC. Most of human being can have thousand of friends but to have a best friend is hard. Why these phenomenons happen? Should human created to treat people equally or vice versa? This question should be answer by us, the created creature. Human need human, animal need animal and plant need plant, this is why the needs of friend is emphasize in life. But why need best friend despites of having friends and it is already enough to just have friend if we just emphasize ‘human need human’. The cruelty of world creates the so-called bias of having best friend. Personally I consider best friend as alternative family members, someone who we can share our thoughts, personals, anger, happiness, sorrow and etc.

Consider this story, Russell is a normal married guy who lives a decent life in the suburban, having good job and lots of friends and luckily he has one best friend name James. They both take care of each other so much (as a friend) and there is nothing that can keep them apart. Being a best friend since primary school has tightened their relationship until now. Besides having their own family to take care of, their relationship still at their own best. Lots of thoughts have been exchanged, lots of anger has been expressed, lots of sorrow has been shared and lots of tear has been shed off. Together they stand still in the name of best friend. The moment that we cherish could never last longer, there is no such thing as eternity in this world. James, a healthy loving husband has kept the secret of having chronic disease. James needs a donor for his dysfunctional heart. Russell’s ignorant of the matter has put him in the critical situation when James suddenly fainted in front of him. Fortunately he managed to send him to hospital and he was in critical situation. The truth has been revealed that has been kept for such a long time away from his concern. He then decided to donate half of his heart to him. Their blood matched and the operation happened smoothly. The grateful face of James towards Russell expressed when their operation was successful.  Unfortunately, the event doesn’t last longer when suddenly James got complication upon accepting new heart. The rejection of the heart has torn the life friendship between James and Russell. James died the day later.

This story might sound cliché but what I want to convey here are the feeling of true best friend and the co-feeling towards it. Their livelihood friendship has created the sense of belonging to each other. When the same gender be best friend, the sense of belonging would be greater (my opinion), the sense of love would never arouse and that is the most important in relationship. Nevertheless, what are the most important moral values are the sense of sincerity and scarification towards each other. Last message that this story portray is the sense of eternity. Whatever relationship in this world won’t last eternity, but it stays in their heart forever.  

If I were to choose, having both gender as best friend is the best because man and women are created differently and compliment to each other. But sometimes, having women as a best friend could mislead the intention of having best friend. Without our concern, the feeling of caring as friend could change to feel caring as a lover. This type of relationship has bumped out of the boundary of best friend. In any relationship, sincerity is the most important thing that should be embraced constantly. Having such a feeling of love sometimes can be accepted if that person has already married or ‘unavailable’. In my opinion, having a friend as a best friend just for the feeling of love is unacceptably but deniable. Furthermore, taking best friend (different gender) who has similar status would be the best. Yet, having such feeling of love is not totally wrong and the history has proved best friend can be lover, later married. What has been discussed before, having different gender as best friend could create such feeling of love, I think that could be disadvantage for those whom are already ‘unavailable’. Again, my opinion the most important thing to avoid when having different gender as best friend are the feeling of ‘overcare’ because it could lead to other feeling and one more, we must cater to what has syariah prescribed in the relationship. Even though the term of best friend, many always misinterpreted and going overboard.

In conclusion, it is the best to have one each from different gender as best friend but the feeling of independent and the sincerity towards the friendship are crucial to cater. Different gender best friend can create more diversity in relationship. The sense of compliment act as the best accessory in any relationship. But again if the feeling of sincerity and independent (no feeling of love) fail to cater, having same gender is the best.